Can You Be Both Friends And Lovers?
For guys, a perfect relationship would be being both friends and lovers at the same time. A guy would gladly become intimate with any any of his female buddies. Guys similarly have the idea that a friendship with a girl can and will ultimately result in an intimate relationship. MAN, YOU ARE SO WRONG!
Guys like to think that girls function like them in the sense that they make use of friendships to kick begin relationships or keep prospective mates as buddies in case or till they are available. Guys also like to think that if you become buddies to start with, it will give you inner access to the girl so you can start to work on her. MAN, YOU ARE SO WRONG AGAIN!
For girls, being friends and lovers are 2 totally separate things. One can bring about the other, but it is super uncommon. That is why it is so tough to become more than buddies with a girl that's been your buddy for a very long time. When you initially interact and engage with a girl, she classifies you as prospective mate material or "other." It is extremely tough to change her mind if she classifies you as other.
Unlike guys, that will get with anybody that displays even a small interest towards them, girls first have to feel an emotional draw towards a guy to get with them. Without this emotional draw, a girl will not categorize you as prospective lover material and you are destined to be permanently stuck in the buddy zone.
This is also why it is so tough to cross over from the buddy zone into the lover zone with a girl. Without an emotional draw towards you, a girl will not just get with you solely because you show an interest towards her. In her mind, you are a buddy that she has no intimate feelings towards. She will most likely feel repulsed and resentful if you try to cross over this gap.
So if you're buddies with a girl and you want it to be more, what can you do? Confess your love for her? Treat her extra special? Be the very best buddy someone can ever have? Shower her with lavish presents and devotion? Wrong! The super carefully safeguarded technique that relationship experts charge outrageous quantities of cash for is this: You need to set off an emotional trigger within a girl to get her to like you. This feeling is not lust or love or an overpowering desire to have your kids. It is merely intrigue ...
So how do you create intrigue? You create intrigue by holding back attention and interest towards her. By pulling back and being aloof, you create a mysterious air about yourself that will get her wondering. Likewise, you raise your value by not pursuing the girl and you will appear less needy. The girl will have to work for YOUR attention if youhave been acting like a very great buddy to her and you all of a sudden change strategies and hold back attention.
Obviously, the very best thing to do is not enter the buddy zone to begin with because contrary to common belief, it is very tough to go from the buddy zone onto the lover zone. The very best method to not wind up in the buddy zone is fast escalation of kino, which means to break that touch barrier early. Unless you really want a woman for a buddy and nothing extra, DO NOT become buddies. From the start, develop an emotional spark within her by being intriguing and interesting.
The super carefully safeguarded technique to getting any girl you want is to first create an emotional draw then to show a lack of interest. This makes the girl unconsciously want to pursue you. This is the well-known pickup artist technique called, "push and pull."