3 Ways To Emotionally Connect With A Woman
Many men have the mistaken belief that pickup methods are only about dropping lines, gimmicks, and routines. Inevitably however, effectively attracting a girl has to do with making an unique emotional connection in between you 2. It's not only about the lines you're spouting or the techniques you're dropping but you need to adjust and adapt to the kind of individual she is, what she's thinking, and what she's feeling. This is precisely what is known to pickup artists as "calibration.".
After you have actually approached a girl and effectively opened the door, you need to immediately shift in to demonstrating your high value. In other words, you need to emotionally engage a girl and bring her in to your reality. There are 3 primary means to do this:
This is behaving cocky in a funny way. Not being outright insulting or a comedian, yet being clever and confident in what you say. The following is a very basic sequence of a cocky/funny sequence:
You: So what was your name again?
You: Nice name, you spell that with a K or C ?
You: You serious? Haha, I don't want to talk with you anymore ...
Girl: WTF? Why not?!
You: Every Kathy that spells her name with a K is trouble ... Like I know a Cathy with a C and she's a buddy, but every Kathy that spells it with a K I have actually ever met has actually been such a party girl. bad influences on my life ...
The most important element of the above communication is not the cocky/funny itself but just how you're bringing her in to your reality. You are making use of a concept called, "push-pull." This is essentially when you say something negative followed by something nice, and back and forth again. By doing this, not only are you attracting her with your cocky/funny routine, you are developing a personal, emotional connection with her.
B) Gimmicks and routines.
There are all sorts of gimmicks and routines you could employ to demonstrate your value. One of the most efficient routines are magic tricks. A girl will ooh and ahh at a magic trick and will instantly create intrigue and interest to you. However, this does not always create attraction. To create attraction, you need to emotionally engage a girl with your trick.
Again, this means to bring her in to your reality. This is done by involving her and absorbing her in to your magic trick. You do a trick that actively involves her in to the trick. Things like reading her thoughts or guessing the letter she's thinking etc. functions well to involve her feelings.
C) Reading and understanding her
Girls will be irresistibly attracted to you if you understand them as an individual and recognize the kind of individual she is. The following is an example dialogue that demonstrates this point:
When I initially talked to you, you appeared kind of cold, but I don't know ... You know there are 2 kinds of people in this world. Those that observe and those that are observed, and you appear more like the observer type of person. I believe when people initially meet you, they'll believe you're cold and distant but that's just because they don't know you. You experience the world through your feelings and just want to make sure that the people you allow in to your life are genuinely good people. But that's only a defense you put up to protect yourself because when you're around the right people and having a good time, you could let go and be yourself. And that's just what you're looking for in life, i believe, people that you can be real with and that really understands you as a person.
This is among the most effective ways to quickly emotionally involve a girl. This will quickly make strong attraction as well as connection. However, you really need to be observant and thoughtful, which only comes with skill and experience.
The point of all these is to emotionally involve a girl. Everything you do, all the gimmicks, lines, and tricks you use has no significance unless you involve a girl and make an emotional connection. Keep the mundane talk to a minimum. When you open the door and get in, promptly involve her feelings with the above methods.